The One Good Thing.

Strewn toys and scattered papers (that I failed to place out of his 19 -month-old hand's reach) surround me.   For this moment, I choose to stop the "busy"ness of reacting to the dictates of the clutter and the deadlines and the messes. This time I don't run to the next thing.  I don't sigh at the overwhelming demands.  I breathe as I take this moment in.  I just breathe. Now mentally present where I've been physically standing, I look down...

He's playing here near my feet.  He's brought his color book and crayons to play near me. To be near me...   I bend down and pick up this whirlwind love bug. There's scribbles on his little man arm.   He's decorated himself in tangerine orange crayola.  I find myself smiling and a peace washes over us both.  His blankey is in tow.  I pull it up onto my shoulder and immediately almost magnetically his cheek nestles right into it.  This room of crazy and hectic, just moments ago, has now transformed into a quiet and still preciousness.  

Take this in, Teri, I remind myself.   This gift, this moment, is but a moment.  I know this far too well.  My four, now grown babies are walking reminders of how fast the time of babe-in-arms passes. So, what have I learned in the whisk of all the years passed by?   My baby's baby now rests on my shoulder.   

Those dew drop eyes that make me say yes to cookies look intently into mine.  What are you thinking of, little one?  I wonder. Do you know how very much your Nana loves you?  I pull him close and kiss his head, praying a thankful prayer for this precious gift of a grandson in my life.  Breathing in the smell of his tousled hair, I'm certain there's not a sweeter scent on this planet. 

Lingering here, taking it all in, I'm so grateful I chose to stop for this moment.  This moment hidden amongst the busy. This moment... not on the to-do list. This breath-in-time doesn't demand for itself. To think I almost missed it. 

The whisper in the chaos invited, "Find the gem."  Thankfully, I've stopped long enough to discover, yes, preciously tucked in this moment is hidden the one good thing.     

So I learned a lesson today and wanted to share it...

We recently had a bit of a snafu with our room at the hotel we were staying in recently. I don't like to be a complainer, so I didn't make a big deal about it, other than to respond when the clerk chirped upon our checkout, "So was everything satisfactory?"


I mentioned the situation with our room, but he smiled with his autopilot reply of, "I'm sorry about that" and "Have a nice day!" but offered to do nothing more.
I dismissed the experience at that point.

Later I received an emailed auto survey from the hotel. I deleted it thinking I didn't get anywhere when I expressed it before. The next day they followed up with a second request for my feedback. So I took the time to be honest...

They quickly and apologetically responded with a comp for the room and an invitation to give them the opportunity again in the future - also stating that they were working on the situation with my room so that future guests won't share my same experience.

So, here's what I learned and I think it can be applied in ALL relationships:

BEING HONEST GIVES PEOPLE THE OPPORTUNITY TO DO THE RIGHT THING. Sometimes we think it more polite to just smile and say everything is fine when it's not.  When we do this, others are immediately robbed of growth opportunities and the chance to make things right.

We risk that our honesty will be met with denial or blame, but it's worth the risk. Sometimes it sinks in later....it may even take years...but start the ball rolling. Dont' speak from fickle emotions, be authentic always. It protects you from bitterness and resentment which is half the battle in bringing resolution. And at the end of the day, isn't that what we all want anyway?

Wounds from a friend are better than kisses from an enemy. 

Life is a mixed bag...beautiful moments and difficult times all tangled up together.  But, at the end of the day, if we've learned to find the good and then give away what we've learned to others, it can be worth every single moment.  

It's not what happens to us, but what we do with it that makes all the difference.

I want to make my moments count for something good. :)

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

                                                                                                                   Romans 12:2 (NIV)